Q & A: With Or Without? Bleeding Or Not? What’s Normal Here?

Q. My girlfriend and I’ve had intercourse a pair instances and not using a condom and all the things was nice. When we tried with a condom, she bled. Could the condom be inflicting the bleeding?

A. Sexual intercourse entails friction between two individuals’s our bodies. Just the correct quantity of friction can contribute to individuals’s bodily pleasure throughout intercourse. The friction of sexual stimulation on a penis, vulva, or vagina may even result in orgasm.

Too a lot friction and intercourse could really feel uncomfortable or painful. Too little friction and it could not really feel like a lot of something is occurring throughout intercourse. Wearing a condom provides to the friction throughout intercourse. Sometimes this added friction is a welcome sensation; different instances, it’s not. It could also be that the condom provides a little bit an excessive amount of friction for you and your girlfriend – however that doesn’t imply that it’s a must to surrender carrying condoms. After all, condoms are a extremely efficient technique of lowering the danger of pregnancy and sexually transmissible infections, or STIs.

Tight May Be Just Right

Perhaps you and your girlfriend have already got a tight genital match and the condom supplies an excessive amount of friction. Or perhaps vaginal intercourse begins out all proper with the condom on nevertheless it lasts so lengthy or is vigorous in a means that the lubricant on the condom finally dries up, leaving you with a dry condom and extra friction than feels pleasurable. If that is the case, then intercourse could really feel dry and your girlfriend could also be extra liable to small vaginal tears, which may end up in small quantities of bleeding throughout or after intercourse. Many ladies will expertise small vaginal cuts or tears in some unspecified time in the future of their lives; normally they don’t seem to be painful and can heal inside a couple of days.

To scale back the danger of vaginal cuts or bleeding, attempt including additional water-based lubricant or silicone-based lubricant to the condom after it’s already in your penis. You could discover that by including lubricant, intercourse feels extra snug and pleasurable and your girlfriend could also be much less prone to bleed throughout or after intercourse. If intercourse goes on for a very long time or is especially tough or vigorous, make sure that so as to add extra lubricant as wanted.

You can be taught extra about several types of lubricants, the way to use them and the way lubricants can contribute to extra pleasurable intercourse in Because It Feels Good: A Woman’s Guide to Sexual Pleasure and Satisfaction or Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex.

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