Q & A: What’s Traumatic About Masturbating Face-Down?

Q. I’ve been masturbating face-down on my mattress since puberty. Lately I’ve seen that I’ve a tough time having orgasms from extra conventional strategies. Some fast analysis on-line known as this “traumatic masturbatory syndrome” and mentioned that it may possibly trigger extreme sexual dysfunction. Is this true? What can I do about it?

A: The time period traumatic masturbatory syndrome was first utilized in a 1998 article by a clinician who described 4 of his sufferers who masturbated face-down and who skilled sexual issues. However, the time period has by no means been extensively accepted by the intercourse analysis or remedy neighborhood.

After all, simply because 4 males who masturbated with this system additionally had sexual issues doesn’t imply that the masturbation approach brought on the opposite sexual issues or that it’s an precise syndrome, not to mention a traumatic syndrome.

Although a face-down type of masturbation that includes rubbing in opposition to the mattress seems to be much less frequent than a mode that includes laying on one’s again or sitting up, that doesn’t imply that face-down masturbation will trigger sexual issues. However, typically males who depend on one and solely method of masturbating discover it troublesome to orgasm from different kinds of masturbation or sexual stimulation akin to oral intercourse or intercourse.

Practice Makes Pleasurable

In my experiencing working with males, they’ll usually “re-train” their our bodies to answer a wider vary of sexual stimulation by various their masturbation approach.

You would possibly strive, for instance, masturbating with plenty of lubricant typically, a small quantity of lubricant different occasions and no lubricant in any respect on different events. You would possibly strive completely different paces or rhythms or utilizing completely different hand methods. Try to concentrate on experiencing pleasure quite than the purpose of orgasm which might put stress in your expertise and make it much more troublesome to return.

You would possibly even strive masturbating much less usually. Sometimes, by masturbating much less usually you possibly can construct sexual stress in a method that makes it simpler to orgasm whenever you do masturbate once more.

If you proceed to seek out it troublesome to ejaculate, I’d encourage you to talk along with your healthcare supplier about your expertise. In some circumstances, medical circumstances akin to diabetes can contribute to males’s issue with ejaculation or orgasm.

Sex remedy will be useful as nicely in circumstances the place the problem ejaculating makes males really feel fearful, anxious or involved about relationship or being sexual with one other person. You can discover a intercourse therapist in your space on Society for Sex Therapy and Research’s website.

Finally, studying The New Male Sexuality could also be useful as you discover a wider vary of sexual pleasure.

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